Dating

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Interracial dating
When I decided that Costa Rica was in my future, I didn’t count all the cost, one cost in particular would be dating. I’m a single woman living my dream, but at the same time I’ve always envisioned being in a loving relationship with a man that shared my interest of travel and exploration. I mean I have my girls, but it’s always good to hear a man’s (just any man, my man) point of view. The dating scene didn’t really cross my mind until I arrived here and noticed that this is the land of the pint size man. I’m not saying there’s something wrong with pint size, but I’m a tall glass of water and I like my water to be the same height (at least) or taller. My rule of thumb is, “If I can’t see over his head, there’s nothing to be said!” For whatever reason, I’m a little man’s magnet, you know the pint size guy that you can pick up and put in your pocket or throw over your shoulder? Oddly enough those are usually the ones with the most confidence, which is a trait I admit is admirable, but I still have my preferences. I must say, over the years my “preferences,” have decreased, but I’m faced with a new challenge now and that’s dating outside of my race and that’s something that I’ve never really thought about because my attractions has always been towards the brown hue. It’s not that I wouldn’t date someone besides brown, but in all honesty I’ve never noticed one looking at me in that manner, to be real honest, if he did I probably would not have noticed because of my subconscious “allegiance.” Of course I’ve seen attractive men of all types, but that’s pretty much been the extent of that!! A few of my friends feel like I’ll end up with someone other than brown and that’s something that I’m grappling with because it has never crossed my mind. Now when I say that and look at my gene pool of friends I realize that I’m part of the rainbow coalition, but I’m on the outside looking in and now I have some choices to make. My choices are either wait for the brown man that I’ve always envisioned myself being with or be open to that MAN (regardless of color) that will treat me right and we’ll make each other happy. As for now, I’m working on my openness and only time will tell….

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